If you’ve noticed, it’s just so yesterday to be fundamentalistic about religion or marriage or whathaveyou anymore, right? Meanwhile, did you notice the new kind of fundamentalists sneak up on you?
I’m sure I’ve mentioned it on the blog many times before, and I’ll say it again, I detest being pressurized into fitting a typicality I don’t agree with, in the first place. If I do like the typicality or stereotype, trust me I’d need no coaxing. In fact, the more strict you make your rules, the more I’m unlikely to subscribe to your little cult. Why? Because if I’m a firm believer of anything, it is openness. I feel both threatened and annoyed in company of people with one-track, closed brains. For example, you and I may be straight, but I need to know that you’re not homophobic. Another example – It’s been a long-standing issue between me and organized religion. I cannot stand the idea of God being one for human beings to upsell and cross-sell. I can deal even lesser with the personal ownership most people seem to have over God. And isn’t it just cute how some of them think that their God owns you and can get very angry with you and make you burn in hell?
But while this kind of fanaticals you won’t encounter everyday, you will meet another kind that is rather pervasive. You know the kind who are capable of and do use logic to systematically articulate their opinions and tirelessly shove it down your throat, all the while claiming to be the flat opposite of who they are really being? The kind that will go so far as to say that they’re not fundamentalists but poor-oldworldcharmloving-idealists? The workaholic who is proud of a year full of 100-hr weeks and holds a grudge against you for your Friday evenings? The mommy who thinks only organically grown veggies must go into the baby’s tummy and will judge you for your choices? The vegetarian who thinks it’s his or her prerogative to make you feel guilty about your food? The distant relative who will claim how MBA is the way to go, because their kids went that way?
The world is full of people out to get validation of their own choices by trying to get another 100 to make the same choice. Little do they understand that the obsession with being proven right, annoying to their audience as it is quite often, also exposes how insecure and uncertain they are about their own choices. It’s surprising that someone believes they can take the choice out of the hands of the person who will actually LIVE the decision, and make it for them! Maybe one kind of parenting works for you but messes up someone else’s child.. what would you do then? Apologize?
On the other hand, whatever the fuck happened to modesty? There are REAL people who think, believe and say that you have to hard-sell yourself and there’s no “market” for individuals who choose to not go around praising themselves. Who will know about your beliefs and that they’re of course the ONLY right way to go, if you don’t TELL them? What do you mean, people will find out if something’s so darn right? Or (and this is my absolute favourite) as a “responsible citizen” or “conscientious individual” or “caring human being”, it is our right and duty to “spread awareness”.. one example of this that comes to my mind is someone using the “I’m a member of educated society” argument to tell someone that their actions were criminally sexist and discriminatory because they were different from those of all their peers 😀
So do I believe there are no absolute rights? I do. I think not murdering someone or being responsible enough to keep the planet green or not jumping traffic signals are those absolutes. But I also believe that these absolutes need no endorsement from me or you to your peers or mine. Can we stop belittling each other’s intelligence and inflicting our choices on others then?
How hard is it to live our own lives? And how hard is to live it irrespective of whether millions of others are living the same choices or not?